Lately, I have been thinking about ways in which we can support ourselves through grief and loss beyond the therapy room, and I wanted to share three books that I have found to be especially comforting for those navigating significant loss.

Finding the right book can feel a little overwhelming, and it is not always easy to know what to trust. These books gently validate your feelings, remind you that you are not alone, and offer practical guidance along the way.

Each has something a little different to offer and I have chosen these books because they have stayed with me over time, and my clients have found them helpful too.

1. The Plain Guide to Grief by John Wilson

This book is perfect for anyone who wants practical guidance on managing grief without feeling overwhelmed.
John Wilson writes in clear, straightforward language, breaking the content into short, digestible paragraphs. This makes it easier to focus, even on days when emotions feel heavy, and allows readers to move through the book at their own pace.

It is a simple yet thoughtful resource for anyone seeking grief support or guidance for coping with loss.

2. Everyday Madness by Lisa Appignanesi

This book is a raw and honest exploration of grief following the loss of a long-term partner.

Lisa Appignanesi shares her personal experience of her partner’s illness and death, as well as reflections on how society often struggles to support those who are grieving. She does not shy away from speaking the truth about the anger, frustration, and rage that can come after losing someone so central to your life.

For anyone navigating partner loss, this book can help you feel seen and understood, while also offering insight into the broader social expectations around grief.

3. Grief Works by Julia Samuel

In Grief Works, Julia Samuel explores how we can live with and learn from significant loss.

The book shares real stories of grief in its many forms, helping readers understand that no two experiences are the same. Alongside these stories, Julia offers practical guidance on what we can do to process grief and move through it in a healthy way.

This book is both comforting and empowering, providing tools to navigate loss while reminding us that grief, though painful, can be a path toward understanding and resilience. This book is described as an essential read for anyone who has ever experienced grief, or for anyone wishing to comfort a bereaved friend.

Finding Support Through Grief

There is no single “right” way to experience grief. These books will not take your pain away, but they can offer understanding, practical guidance, and the reassurance that you are not alone in what you are feeling.

In the years I have spent supporting clients through grief, one of the things I have learned is that—just as there is no “right” way to grieve—there is also no “right” time to begin therapy. Whether it has been six months or six years, it is never too late to reach out. If you are considering therapy but are not sure what to expect, we can start with a free initial chat that may help you decide.

If, for now, you feel that a bit of reading might be enough, make yourself a warm drink, get comfortable, and settle in with one of these wonderful books.